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Fear is the friend who's misunderstood...

I am involved in a project right now that scares me. In fact, I have several projects coming up this month that scare me. Stuff I’ve never done before. Not sure if I’ve thought of everything, not sure how it’ll be received. That uncertainty is what scares me. It all revolves around teaching people how to use Photoshop in scrapbooking. So I’m taking a deep breath, hoping for the best, and diving in. We shall see.

But you know, anxiety about unknowns is really just plain old fear. (Fear is the friend who’s misunderstood, but I know the heart of life is good -John Mayer). And it has me thinking today of that quote from Eleanor Roosevelt:

Do something every day that scares you.

Okay…

I’m officially and forever for the record, not a natural risk-taker. I’m a big dreamer, sure. I have plenty of verbal swagger and hot air to go around, but putting my money where my mouth is, is something else entirely. I will order the same thing at a restaurant for YEARS and be quite contented (Rowen yells “I’ll have a Number Two!” from the back seat every time we pull up to a drive-through, and the people at Baba Ghannouj get chicken kabobs out of the refrigerator when they see me walk in the door). It’s predictable. No risk of a ruined meal.

I will drive on the same road I know, even vaguely suspecting there’s a faster way to get there. Partly this is because I’m mentally lazy. I think most people kind of are (no offense!). Partly this is because with two toddlers, you just need the predictability. They need schedules. I need a schedule. I love naptime! I don’t want to be lost on a dirt road in the middle of North Carolina at 2pm on a Monday.

On the other hand. North Carolina has some tremendously beautiful scenery. I drive on a dirt back road to Target and back, and rarely leave the house otherwise. That’s a little sad. Resolution #648: drive more places, and see more things.

Back to being scared.

I decided to do the default thing I always do when a new idea occurs to me (yes, short attention span at work here). I Google it. I even put the Eleanor Roosevelt quote in quotes so I’d get exact matches.

One of my exact matches took me to this incredible blog (funnily enough, she’s a co-author of several of Jared’s Java certification handbooks). The blog is all about creating a great user experience for users of software. It’s mainly written to engineers. But it is also just plain cool.

Her cartoons are awesome. Her latest posts (which is all I’ve had the chance to absorb so far) made me think. (They also made me miss my old life as a UI designer, but also amazed me how very, very relevant they are to my current life). They are going to help me in my adventures in fear-management.

Here are some excerpts from the post that got me going tonight: The full text is here:

We’ve said before that reducing fear might be a killer app… making something users were previously afraid of feel less threatening.  . . But what about a step beyond that… where you help them do something that just IS really, seriously, scary? Making only things which are friendly and easy is not the holy grail of design.

Reduce my fear or guilt, and I’ll be grateful. Help me do something that really IS scary, and I’ll be grateful and exhilarated. . .

Sometimes, with some products, it’s OK to say, “We can’t make this any easier or less scary, but we can help you come out the other side.”

…And we’re talking moral support, not just tech support, so building a user community is even more important with something really, really, scary.

Isn’t it so COOL that this directly applies to Photoshop? To digital scrapbooking? To the fear that needs to be overcome in order for people to sit down and try it? I hear a lot of criticism and general nay-saying about digital scrapbooking or using your computer for scrapbooking in general (digi or hybrid), but I think the most insulting one is this: A paper scrapper says, “Digital scrapbooking is cheating because it’s so easy. I could do anything on the computer, but give me some scissors and glue, now THERE is the real challenge.”

Clearly this is said by someone who has never actually sat down and tried to do anything in Photoshop. Heh. So maybe this posturing is fear. Maybe they should take Eleanor’s advice and try it one time. ;)

I think it takes about oh, 15 minutes of trying to do something in Photoshop before you realize that you might be in for a little more than you bargained for. Or your head explodes. One or the other. I even said on a 2peas thread yesterday (which I can’t link right now because it’s down…) that I will admit there’s a learning curve involved. Why do we all feel the need to wince and shuffle our feet when we say “learning curve”? Learning is something to be proud of, if the end result is worthwhile. Thanks to Kathy Sierra for her post, helping me see that it’s okay for things to be scary, as long as they are good. Not everything that is worthwhile comes easy (and in fact, most of the things that are the MOST worthwhile to me, have taken a lot of effort to become that way).

But learning Photoshop is hard and frustrating and lonely work sometimes. And it’s okay not to gloss over the scariness, either. She goes on to end that entry with a photo of herself on the “Sydney Bridge Climb” - just what it says, walking out onto the top of the  Sydney bridge. Imagine if the brochure for this had said, “Come on! Join us! It won’t be scary at all!” And imagine what a let-down it would be when you get there and it’s the most terrifying experience of your life.

There aren’t many things more satisfying (exhilarating, even) than working for something and getting it. I get the chance (and the truly scary part - I’m getting increasingly MORE chances) to help a lot of people learn techniques and skills in Photoshop -undoubtely one of the more complicated software programs out there - and be part of that “working and getting it” experience with them. With you. I love getting emails that say, “YES! I did it!” Or when you send me a link to the layout that PROVES that you did it. That rocks so much. Scrapbooking is important. Photoshop is worth knowing as a tool for creative expression and telling the stories of our lives. It can be hard and scary, but it is worth it. That’s why I keep doing this.

So fear (both mine and anyone’s who sits down to learn this stuff) IS the friend who’s misunderstood. Fear gets the blood going, makes us more alert, puts us on the edge of our mental seats. Just where we ought to be, right?

Just where we ought to be.

Have you done something lately that scares you? I’d love to hear about it.

Posted on Sunday, April 15, 2007 at 01:07AM by Registered CommenterJessica in , | Comments17 Comments

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wow jessica...love what you said
all of it.
so true
April 15, 2007 | Unregistered Commentercynthia
Great post, Jessica! And I have to tell you that you are a fantastic teacher and you are going to do a great job this week! I spent 8 years teaching and training my teaching assistants every year. One of the hardest things for new teachers to grasp is that they have to start from the beginning. The true beginning and to put themselves in the shoes of someone who has never heard about the subject they are teaching. And your PSF do that!!! Perfectly!! And you make it fun and throw in some humor! You are a natural teacher and are going to do a great job! Have fun! And give Wendy a hug for me. :)
April 15, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterSteph
I just took the scary plunge to start learning PSE. I love computers, I'm a computer friendly person . . . but this TERRIFIED me. I pictured myself getting nowhere, screaming at my screen, and perhaps throwing a thing or two. But it's working -- slowly, but working. And there is NOTHING like conquering something that's scary. Such a great feeling.

It's almost like raising kids. If it was sooo easy, what would be the big deal?! It's not, and sometimes it's downright scary . . . so mom's should give themselves a pat on the back for doing something that's not so easy.

Everything you said Jessica, can be applied to many other areas of our lives! Thanks!

betsy
April 15, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterbetsy sammarco
I did something really scary... I told a good friend of mine that she is raising her daughter to be only comforted by her, my friend. The dad, everyone else is put on a sideline by this super overprotective mom.
It was extremely scary to do, as normally, I never interfere with moms and their kids. It is scary because if I shut up, it is scary to look at how the baby will grow up...
It is scary to think you have to tell a good friend that she might be on the wrong track, as nothing should really become between mothers and babies...
Scary stuff! (I might have ruined the friendship, which is also scary!)
April 15, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterscrapcat (Catherine)
What a great post. I have been kicking this PSE5.0 around for a few months now and getting nowhere. With the new magazine, Computer Tricks, and a more resourceful dd than myself I am starting to grasp it a bit. I took a baby step and was able to complete my first layout on Friday night. It was pure delight. I am so glad that I kept my fear at bay and kept plodding along.
April 15, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterKathy
you are crazy.
and a genius.
a crazy genius.
Because as if I haven't raved enough about how amazing this is going to be, here's another point:
finally got my hands on Computer Tricks. Your directions are pure perfection. Digi/hybrid/paper doesn't matter.
crazy genius.
April 15, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterKirsten
Yep it is scary and sometimes you do feel like your head is totally going to blow up. But when you have a 'light bulb' moment it is sooooo awesome! I designed a little ad for our business all in photoshop the other day. IT WAS AWESOME, no not the ad, it was ok, but doing it all in photoshop was great! I use quark and then convert it into a pdf or eps. So this was a BIG step for me. I love what Kirsten said, yes you are a crazy genious! love love love that! And thank you my friend for all you have taught me, after all the times I have read your blog, yes you are my friend now :)
April 15, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterBrooke in Oregon
Being scared is another way to know that you are alive, that you are growing and that you are moving in a new direction. I was scared when I changed careers, when we decided to try to get pregnant, and when I decided to stay home with my son. Those were the most rewarding things that I have done. You are going to be great - I mean, how can you be scared about teaching people to use Photoshop to scrapbook?!? You are AWESOME at it!
April 15, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterMelinda in Michigan
Jessica -- you're the best! You're inspiring and you're just plain GOOD-hearted to share all your wonderful talent and knowledge -- yes, and feelings! -- with us. That is not the action of a frightened woman -- rather, it is the deed of a courageous woman! So believe in yourself, as we all do, and whatever you are embarking on will be wonderful.

btw, I did a hybrid layout today, using one of yours in the new book as inspiration. I LOVED IT! Here's a link to it in my 2peas gallery.

http://twopeasinabucket.kaboose.com/pg.asp?cmd=display&layout_id=1133495

Thanks again -- you are the best!
April 15, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterJanie
Oops, forgot my link to my lo inspired by your hybrid tutorial. I did mine all digital, but as usual, LOVE your work!

http://www.digishoptalk.com/gallery/showphoto.php?photo=101979&cat=all&ppuser=4323

April 15, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterMelinda in Michigan
Thanks for everything you said.
I'm always afraid to do something new.
Sometimes I let fear paralyze me from trying something new,
meeting new people, etc.
I love photoshop, and have always said "it so hard"
but the more I use it, the more I love it.
I finally found your book this weekend (At CK St.Louis)
Can't wait till I get some free time to go through the pages.
Thanks
Kaylea

April 16, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterKaylea
Just a couple of comments...First, I love the inspiration I find with every blog entry of yours that I read...not only have I learned so much from you, but I fear no longer to try new experiments with all things scrapping! Second, I was touched to read your tribute to Vonnegut...I have read everything he has written over the years and he so touched my heart and psyche I was just sad over the news of his death and glad to see your acknowledgment of his work...
And last...just thought since you asked for music recommendations I would point you to this singer/songwriter/musician who is AWESOME but little known (so far)...
http://www.moniqueberry.com/new/samples.html
Would love to hear what you think of her work!
Thanks so much for all you do and share!!!!
April 16, 2007 | Unregistered Commentercj
I was really thrilled when I found Photoshop Fridays about a month ago, and then excited to find the Computer Tricks magazine. I'm still plugging away with my PSE4, and learning new things everyday. Thanks for doing what you do--I'm proof that even an old dog CAN learn new tricks!

Here's my layout I did yesterday inspired by Dagmar's paper layout on p132 of the magazine!

http://www.digitalscrapbookplace.com/gallery/showphoto.php?photo=181059&cat=3634
April 16, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterScamptx
I was thinking about this post as I scanned some of the tutorials in Computer Tricks. I haven't had a chance to put some of them to use--other projects on the front burners that have finally been moved out. Anyway, the idea struck me that I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to read a Photoshop book for digiscrappers written by you. Yes, you. I know that there are bazillions of photoshop books out there, but there just aren't that many that are geared towards digiscrappers. Many of the books present the techniques and then you've got to figure out how to apply them to your own LO work. I've seen Renee Pearson's first book, and I think that's a step in the right direction. Many digiscrappers are self-taught at Photoshop (I was one of the lucky ones whose DH had to install PSCS2 to test it at home for work...I had been using DIP). Though there are tons of tutorials out there, yours are, I think, the easiest to follow. THey give the most bang for the tutorial buck, if you will. I'd like to see something that takes PSCS2 users through all of the different functions/options in the program and shows different ways to use these tools and functions in scrapbook pages. Ahhh, the inspiration!!

Anyway, that was my thought and I figured I'd share it with you. You'd have at least one buyer if you put out such a book. (Oh, and could you please focus on PSCS2 first? LOL! I've learned a lot, but there's still SO MUCH I could learn.) :)
April 16, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterSinead
Ditto about there being a learning curve and your head possibly exploding the first time you sit down to PS. :) I can still remember my awe and fear! And I had to first learn/self-teach it at work...scary stuff. But I know that I'm miles better at digi scrapping than I was 6 months ago (in part thanks to YOU!), and I hope to be even better in another 6 months. In PSE and PS (or pretty much any part of Creative Suite), taking the time to mess with things is a good thing.

My latest scary thing has been trying to set up my own blog, mostly to be able to easily share things with all the people and family I'm close with. (Or not so close, but who still like to keep tabs!) Of course I designed a fancy header in PSE, but being able to get my blog to look how I imagined it by editing the HTML code is mind-boggling. Especially when I know next to nothing about HTML! I suppose its more challenging and frustrating than scary, except that I have the feeling some will think/say "Why would anyone care?" Thats pretty scary to face!

Glad to hear you're challenging yourself. I absolutely love Eleanor Roosevelt, been meaning to read her bio.
April 16, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterTrude
i will be one of the lucky students for your class at cku detroit on friday. i have read all about digi scrapping but have been too afraid to dip my toe into this new way of scrapping. how happy was i to find out that there was going to be a digital scrapping class at cku. i follow your photoshop fridays but am too intimidated to try this new genre. i am really looking forward to your class and i am sure that you will do great.

cindy
April 17, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterCindy Mandernach
You know, I think I can see why that woman thought so because there are kits out there that's like, paste your picture in here and here.... and like, that's it. Just like there's paperkits out there doing almost the same. I feel that both are well....not really scrapbooking... not if it directs you to go and do this and that and hey you're done. BUT. Scrapbooking the way you do. Using digipapers like "real" paper and stuff. And oh so much more because of what layers and other cool stuff allows you to do. That's wow. That's amazing and thats in a way so much more than trad. paper-scrapbooking.... or rather...both are amazing in two separate ways...none really better than the other...not when the people behind them really knows their mediums. Imho :)

Am also taking on some exciting and scaring assignments/projects. I think it'll be cool and wonderful. We'll see. Have to make it work first :)
April 18, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterAnia

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